Jealousy, Suspicion, Resentment, Possessiveness and Distrust
One of the most challenging things in a relationship is jealousy, suspicion, resentment, possessiveness and distrust. If you have been badly let down by one or more partners in the past, it is not unusual to be suspicious and on the lookout for any slight signs of similar behaviour from your present partner. This may be despite the fact that you know they are completely in love with you and are completely loyal to you.
The problem is often worse if your partner is sociable and outgoing. It is easy to be suspicious and distrust them and to imagine that they are flirting or that other people will make a play for them. Even though you know that your partner is completely loyal, you just can’t get the idea out of your mind that someone might come along to pull apart your relationship. You might seem overly possessive and your partner may feel they have to unnaturally hold him or herself back, leading to you feeling guilty. All this can then lead to tension and upsets between you.
Many people have come to me saying that their otherwise very loving relationship is at severe risk of breaking up because of this sort of jealousy and possessiveness. This is not necessary, it is one of the most successful areas of my work and I can help!
I can help the deeper part of your mind to see the genuine differences between your previous partners and the natural, innocent gregarious behaviour of your present partner. I can help that deeper part of your mind to let go of the hurts from the past, while also recognising valuable lessons. I can help you to trust your intuition again, so that you can tell the difference between genuinely good people and those who are good at deceiving people. Also, if the fear has got to the point of being a phobia, I can use the many techniques that are available for phobias to dissolve these fears.
If you are not sure if your partner is completely loyal, yet you still want your relationship to go well, there are many things I can teach you to be able to communicate better, to understand each other better and for them to want to give more time and attention to you and to making things better between you. For more information on how to turn your relationship around and make it better, see my page on relationships.
If you happen to have a problem with being jealous of other people, then I can help to relieve this too. Our media and culture are so full of messages that we should own certain things, live a certain lifestyle, or even have a particular unrealistic type of partner.
By all means aspire to improve your life, so long as it is in ways that can truly satisfy you. It is actually natural and healthy to aspire to make your life better, to be clear about what you want in life and how you want to live it. I can help you to aim for these things without stressing yourself or building up resentment or jealousy. I can also teach you how to manage your expectations in a way that aligns every part of you towards making your life genuinely more satisfying.